Fighting The Gloom
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I have a friend that I have known for the last 10 years. He is one of the frogs that whispers in my ear at times. I can go into work (which I usually do maybe once or twice a month) and this friend will stop by, say hi, and we will talk for a while. I want to introduce you to Stuart K. His life has drastically changed over the last 10 years. I want you to hear his story. Not everyone has had it as hard as Stuart has had it. But I know that there are times when we feel like the world would probably be better off without us.
I have been there several times, never to the point that Stuart discusses, but there have been times when I have thought that I was more of a burden to those I loved than I was a benefit. I can understand the darkness, not to the extent that Stuart understands it, but I understand it. I can see how that darkness can get to the point where you believe there is only one option. In Stuarts case, I am glad that he was being watched by someone unseen that hindered and stopped him. I strongly believe that the reason that happened was to let his story be told.
Stuart mentions that he is into falconry. I have always loved birds of prey and one of my frogs at one time during a take your frog to work day was able to hold an American Kestrel that Stuart had brought into work. My heart gladdens when that photo makes its way to my memories on Facebook.
Now, let's listen to Stuart.
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